I am getting really annoyed at all the "then" and "now" photos of movie stars, claiming that they looked so much better "then". For most of those pairs of photos, I find the "now" photos are simply genuine aging with a good deal of grace in most cases.
The multi-multi-billion-dollar cosmetics and 'looking better' industries worldwide need to calm down and find another way to make money. In fact all of the people sucked in by the ads and promotions, spending fortunes on cosmetics to get rid of wrinkles and sags, bulges and droops, are fooling themselves, but not fooling me.
I worked REALLY REALLY HARD to achieve the honest wrinkles and sags, bulges and droops my body has acquired during a long, interesting, challenging, wonderful life. And I expect if the population of the world should change its mind about 'looks' and become proud of what has been acquired through years and decades of hard labour, the money now being spent on all of that cosmetic uneasiness could be spent instead on educating and feeding children who have no chances, at providing millions of small loans to women worldwide to start their own businesses that will support the families they are already trying to raise alone.
In fact it just occurred to me the other day that really, when you look at every society on earth to see who is raising the children and making things happen--it is the women who are doing the constructive and educational activities, and the men (mostly) who are trying their best to tear it all down--whether through war, or violence against women and children, or simply by walking away from their G-d-given responsibilities, leaving women to cope as best they can, with NO male support.
In most societies, it is really the women who do the home-building, the child-rearing, the education, and the community building of all kinds. Men rarely are around to do it. However, they ARE around to criticize and point fingers at the way women appear to them---the clothes, the makeup, the hair, the shoes, the body shape and condition and the sexual attractiveness or lack thereof. And women BELIEVE what the men tell them, and spend those billions on continuing crusades to satisfy those who will never ever be satisfied.
And the women do NOT seem to criticize or care about the wrinkles, sags, bulges, droops and hair loss of the men. However, more and more, men are convincing themselves that women do care tremendously about this and they are buying in at a phenomenal rate to the fantasies and self-deceptions.
I think that Nick Nolte, Tommy Lee whatever, Brigitte Bardot, and so many others are honestly providing me with the visual treat of proof of their lives hard lived.
I think I got this attack of clarity while watching the bird-ladies on my deck, as they built the nests, laid the eggs, brooded the eggs to hatching, then provided conveyor-bird feeding to the young (I admit that many species' males do help on feeding). But it is the women/females/ladies of most species including human, who provide. When the men provide, it is limited, in both time and focus, and often totally self-interested, with a timer on the interest that clicks off when sexual arousal seems to disappear.
Time to turn things around.
Time for all of us--men AND women--to be PROUD of those wrinkles and bulges so honestly earned.
Time to tell the "fashion" and "cosmetics" industries to look at us differently, and help us to build pride in our achievements, however they appear.
Time for all women to STOP listening to and obeying those billionaire (trillionaire) industries and stand up (however creakily) for the hard-won achievements of appearances that demonstrate lives lived.
Shabbat and the Holy Temple
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